Updated: Apr 14
Today, we are introducing you to "Donnetta 'Dheemarie' Davis"
Share info about you, where you are from originally and where you are now, and what you do?
My name is Donnetta "Dheemarie" Davis. I go by Dheemarie, which is my pen name. I am a divorce+dream coach, author, real estate investor and an English Professor. I am originally from Milwaukee, Wisconsin, born and raised. Currently still reside there.
What have you overcome? Share a little about your topic.
I broke a strong generational curse. I broke away from a toxic relationship. 31 years ago, my grandmother was murdered in the courthouse in downtown Milwaukee. As a result of a toxic relationship, she lost her life.
Fast forward, I was with my son's father for nearly half of my life (together 15 years, married for 3). I decided to file for divorce after looking at a picture of myself. I didn't recognize me. The stress and toxicity had aged me. To add insult to injury, I had a vision of my 90 year old self, rocking in a rocking chair. I was looking over my life and regretting that I hadn't lived my life. No trips, no new food, no new friends, no new experiences, nothing...that vision shook me to my core. At that point, I knew my relationship was KILLING me softly. And, if I decided to stay in it, I'd die sooner rather than later and I'd die MISERABLE. I decides to LIVE and not to die...
How did you know you needed to change?
When I looked at a photo of myself and didn't recognize myself.
What steps did you take to implement change?
The steps I took to implement change:
1. Hired 2 life coaches (one specialized in toxic relationships and healing)
2. Hired a psychotherapist
3. Read a truck load of books about narcissism, codependency
4. Listened to mentors like RC Blakes, Tony Gaskins, Chanel Jasmin Clark, etc
5. Completed journaling exercises
6. Wrote letters to my childhood self, mom, father, ex husband
7. Prayed for discernment, joy, peace, wisdom
8. Got comfortable with being single
9. Solo traveled often
10. Rediscovered what made me HAPPY
11. Started to learn how to truly love myself
12. Prayed I'd view me how God views me
13. Started coaching women in toxic relationships, helping them get out
What encouraging words can you leave for the readers?
Never give up on yourself. You are your best investment. You deserve to live your absolute best life!
What is your favorite quote?
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant gorgeous talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?" --Marianne Williamson
Provide the best ways to contact you.
IG - @dheemarie_coach
YT - dheemarie dreams
Email - firstname.lastname@example.org
Mail - 10936 N. Port Washington Rd.
Mequon - WI - 53092
Dheemarie, a divorce+dream coach, author professor and real estate investor, helps women heal and create a new life after divorce.
Dheemarie found herself trapped and struggling in a toxic marriage. After nearly two decades, she filed for divorce from her husband. After doing so, she struggled with moving forward and not focusing on the past. But then, she was reminded of her second chance...31 years earlier, her grandmother, Shirley Mae Lowery, was brutally murdered in the courthouse in downtown Milwaukee as a result of a toxic relationship. Dheemarie believes she broke a generational curse when she decided to walk away from toxicity. She know understands her purpose in life. She has turned her pain into POWER. She desires to inspire and motivate others, letting them know that a better life awaits after the pain of a toxic relationship or a divorce. To keep up with Dheemarie - follow her on IG @dheemarie_coach Or check her out on YT - dheemarie dreams.
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