Why new beginnings? Why don’t settle?
New is not existing before. Made. Introduced or discovered recently, or now for the first time.
Beginning is the point in time or space at which something starts.
Settling is having a settled way of life. It is staying in one place, in one job, or with one person, rather than moving around or changing
when you are not happy in a situation. Settling is staying in unhealthy relationships, staying at a job you don’t like because the benefits are good and it pays the bills, even though you don’t earn as much as you could if you didn’t settle. To settle is to be unfulfilled.
One of the things of settling for me was, being bought up to go to school, get a good job, and work for an organization until I retire. To do this, is a form of settling. There are other options than this. I didn’t have to work for an organization all my working years, I could be an entrepreneur and own my own business.
Note: What can be done is analyze your life to see what’s best for you.
In life, we will be in situations, and depending on what they are, we have the choice to be stuck in them or choose to make new beginnings by doing something different.
It’s not always easy to make changes, but what makes it easier, is to evaluate each situation or circumstance. In doing this, we will know how to proceed with staying as is or creating new beginnings. It’s our own choice to make individually, no one can make the choice for us.
In my opinion, we need to be taught from childhood to evaluate our lives to see what’s working and what’s not working to know not to settle in a situation or stay stuck in a circumstance and instead, determine our next.
I was stuck in a relationship, that we had the same issues for years, going around the same mountain. I can even look back and see when the issues started. We would have an issue, and just stay together even though it wasn’t totally happy. I was thinking about our children, thinking things will get better, but they never did. We just kept moving forward and the years went by. When that relationship ended, I had new beginnings that have led to me living my best life NOW. I would have ended the relationship much, much earlier if I had known to be evaluating and analyzing it instead of staying in it trying to make it work, all while being unhappy (not all the time as there were many good times) and developing bad habits (one being emotional eating) as a result of it.
As I began the process of beginning new, I started working on myself in a different way. I worked on my inner self. I read the book titled “Healing The Broken Hearted,” I ordered the “emotional healing” package that consisted of books and cassette tapes. This is how I started my new beginning. And as the saying goes, the rest is history.
It is important to know that you can always have new beginnings, you don’t have to stay stuck or settle in anything that is not causing you to live your best life NOW.
I used to be a “happy go lucky” kind of person, and being in that relationship, I had lost myself. This why it is so important to continually evaluate and analyze our lives to not end up being stuck, like I was, for years. We don’t have to settle at all, especially for mediocrity, there is so much more to life.
What I say is, “I’m back to myself and am even better.” I am free to be me, where I wasn’t before.
I encourage you to analyze and evaluate your life to see where you stand in regards to being stuck or settling, and depending on the outcome of your evaluation, take steps for new beginnings.
“There is always hope to begin new and not settle!”
Noreen N. Henry
Victorious Living Strategist
6x International Best Seller
Certified John Maxwell Team Leader
TV Talk Show Host